Almuhtada.org – In Islamic law, the word takhbib relates to the presence of a third party in a household. Its presence risks bringing damage and rift to a married couple.
The term takhbib can be found in the following hadith:
وَمَنْ خَبَّبَ عَلَى امْرِئٍ زَوْجَتَهُ أَوْ مَمْلُوكَهُ فَلَيْسَ مِنَّا
Meaning:
“Whoever interferes (takhbib) with a man’s wife or his servant, then he is not one of us.” (HR Ahmad).
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What is Takhbib
Quoting the Encyclopedia of Women’s Fiqh by Gus Arifin and Sundus Wahidah, scholar Muhammad Syamsul Haqqil Azhim Abadi explains the meaning of takhbib in his book Aunu Ma’bud Syarah Sunan Abu Dawud.
According to him, The meaning of takhbib in language is to deceive and breaking a woman realationship with her husband. This is done by mentioning the bad points or comparing the good points of the husband with other men in front of the woman.
The person doing the takhbib is trying to bring down the good name of a husband in front of his wife. Imam Adz-Dzahabi in the book Al-Kabair also explains the meaning of takhbib, namely as a destroyer of a woman’s heart towards her husband.
Quoted from the NU Online page, the term takhbib comes from the Arabic word “al-khabb” which means to deceive. Takhbib is defined as someone who seeks to break up household relationships.
The Law of Takhbib in Islam
Still from the Encyclopedia of Women’s Fiqh, takhbib is a behavior that is prohibited by Islam. This is as referred to in the previous words of the Prophet SAW and other hadiths, in which the person who does takhbib is said not to belong to his group.
عَنْ أَبِى هُرَيْرَةَ رَضِىَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ: مَنْ خَبَّبَ زَوْجَةَ امْرِئٍ أَوْ مَمْلُوْكَهُ فَلَيْسَ مِنَّا
Meaning:
From the friend of Abu Hurairah RA, the Rasullullah said, “Whoever destroys (takhbib) someone’s wife or servant, then he is not one of us.” (HR Abu Dawud)
The one who commits takhbib is also rewarded with a major sin. Ibnul Qayyim Al-Jauziyah said in the book Al Jawabul Kafi liman Sa’ala ‘an Dawa’i Shaf’i:
“Indeed, the Rasulullah SAW cursed the one who does takhbib and he separated himself from the one who does it. Takhbib is one of the major sins because when the Prophet SAW prohibited a man from proposing to a woman who has been proposed to by another man, and prohibited a man from bargaining for an item that someone else is bargaining for, then what about a man who tries to separate a husband from his wife so that he can have a relationship with her.”
It is also explained that at least the sin of the takhbib is the same or worse than adultery. Imam Adz-Dzahabi in the book Al-Kabair also said that the person who commits takhbib is a cursed person who will be disgraced and kept away from the love of Allah SWT.
Although takhbib in a number of hadith texts refers to a man who disturbs someone’s wife, the prohibition of takhbib also applies equally to the opposite, namely in the case of a woman who flirts with someone’s husband.
Ibn Hajar al-Haitami explained in Az-Zawajir ‘an Iqtirafil Kabair: “The 257th and 258th major sins are harassing someone’s wife, meaning breaking her heart so that she dislikes her husband. And flirting with someone else’s husband”
The word takhbib refers not only to damaging behavior in a household, but also to those who attempt to cause damage. The person who commits takhbib can come from a close environment that is not expected at all, such as friends and relatives.
This is an explanation of the term takhbib in Islam, which relates to other parties who are able to damage household relationships. [] Fahdina Dean
Editor: Mohammad Rizal Ardiansyah
